Friends survey...
Sep. 25th, 2005 02:35 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)

Hmm. I don't have a "friends policy," really. I'm ecstatic when someone adds me. I care not how often you update, or how often you comment. Unless you're a total ass, what you say in your posts causes me to care about you, whether I've met you or not, whether you comment or not. I tend to leave people on my list whether they drop me later or not; its my way of keeping in touch and knowing you're ok, unless the journal is friends only, and then it's rather pointless. The only person I ever dropped was someone who expressed complete joy over something that would be used to oppress people I care about. I used to add people at random quite often, although I would always leave a comment when I did. Lately, I've gotten wary about doing that - some people seem to really hate it. If someone has a friends only journal, I won't usually add them unless it's someone who added me first. I have no wish to impose - sometimes it seems offputting, but I know people have their reasons. If anything, I suppose I ought to be a little more cautious about what I leave public. I'm glad this place gives me the option - most places don't.
I confess to a little disappointment and hurt as well, when someone drops me. I know I shouldn't take it personally, and I try not to ( I know I'm not every ones cup of tea), but I'm human and I have emotions after all. Luckily, it doesn't happen very often. Less often than people add me, anyway. ;)
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Date: 2005-09-26 08:31 am (UTC)'Twas ever thus.