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[senoritafish]

Hmm. I don't have a "friends policy," really. I'm ecstatic when someone adds me. I care not how often you update, or how often you comment. Unless you're a total ass, what you say in your posts causes me to care about you, whether I've met you or not, whether you comment or not. I tend to leave people on my list whether they drop me later or not; its my way of keeping in touch and knowing you're ok, unless the journal is friends only, and then it's rather pointless. The only person I ever dropped was someone who expressed complete joy over something that would be used to oppress people I care about. I used to add people at random quite often, although I would always leave a comment when I did. Lately, I've gotten wary about doing that - some people seem to really hate it. If someone has a friends only journal, I won't usually add them unless it's someone who added me first. I have no wish to impose - sometimes it seems offputting, but I know people have their reasons. If anything, I suppose I ought to be a little more cautious about what I leave public. I'm glad this place gives me the option - most places don't.

I confess to a little disappointment and hurt as well, when someone drops me. I know I shouldn't take it personally, and I try not to ( I know I'm not every ones cup of tea), but I'm human and I have emotions after all. Luckily, it doesn't happen very often. Less often than people add me, anyway. ;)

Comments

[wineandsong.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean. I know this is only the internet, but when someone recently de-friended me, I went through a couple of hours of "huh? why? what did I do?" until I talked myself into remembering that it's only LJ, I've never met this particular person, and he'd been altering a few aspects of his life before he took the action that most affected me. People grow in different directions, and we're not all going to be likeable to everyone.

It still hurts though.

Having said that, I don't think I've ever de-friended anyone. At least, no-one who actively participates in their (or my) journal.

[senoritafish.livejournal.com]

I finally had to convince myself that the person who dropped me wasn't all that interesting (to me), so I must not have been to her either. But you can tell your head these things all you want, but your feelings have a hard time listening. *Sigh*

'Twas ever thus.

[metalmensch.livejournal.com]

I'm suprised mildly that they didn't have a section for unfriending people because they post a deluge of tripe. That's my only reason for unfriending people currently.

[senoritafish.livejournal.com]

*Waves a can of menudo at you*

I dare ya! Nyah!

(I kid - I would never do that - stuff smells horrible.)

[metalmensch.livejournal.com]

The tripe is the only thing in there I'd object to. I loves me some garlic, although the peppers might hurt a tad.

[metalmensch.livejournal.com]

Wait. I just got that! Damn I'm slow tonight. :)

[senoritafish.livejournal.com]

That's it - I'm gettin' the can opener...

*snerk*

The day I'm too esoteric for metalmensch...wow, I just impressed myself!

[archaeomom8.livejournal.com]

Hi, I'd like to add you, if that's okay. :-)

I found your lj through some convoluted path that came by way of the archaeological lj. I just loved your description of the little señorita. I used to dive in southern CA too, off Catalina sometimes, although I live way inland now - in the high desert. On top of that, when I saw that you were reading Neal Stephenson and Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, I had to hurry right over here.

I've got a bunch of kids, not enough work, and a college-age daughter who lives in Huntington. Friend me back if you want to.

[senoritafish.livejournal.com]

Hey thanks! I'm delighted when people add me! Actually the senorita description is from a fish ID book by Milton Love, a professor at UCSB. He's a very funny writer, for a scientist. :)

In any case, welcome to the insanity! And yes, I've added you back. Did you see the quiz? (http://www.livejournal.com/users/senoritafish/205321.html)

[archaeomom8.livejournal.com]

Cool. :-)

I'll take the quiz.